Cooperative Divorce
A Structured Yet Compassionate Way to Divorce
A Cooperative Divorce is designed for couples who want to separate with dignity, maintain control of their decisions, and keep the process moving — without stepping into a courtroom. It combines the collaborative spirit of mediation with the structure and advocacy of attorney-led negotiation, helping couples reach fair agreements through transparency, teamwork, and mutual respect.
What Is a Cooperative Divorce?
A Cooperative Divorce is a modern, settlement-focused approach designed for couples who want to stay out of court — but still want to stay on schedule. It combines the transparency and teamwork of mediation with the structure of attorney-guided negotiation. The goal is simple: to resolve your divorce respectfully, efficiently, and privately, without endless delays or courtroom battles.
Unlike mediation — where a single neutral guides both spouses through the process — in a Cooperative Divorce, each spouse is represented by their own attorney. Both lawyers commit to negotiating in good faith, exchanging full financial disclosure, and working toward a fair agreement without resorting to litigation.
Most of the work happens in four-way meetings — both spouses and their attorneys together at the same table (or virtual table) — where we roll up our sleeves, identify the key issues, and work through them collaboratively. The goal is progress, not posturing.
At Safdar Law & Mediation Group, we focus on keeping communication direct, transparent, and productive so that both parties can move forward without the stress, expense, or emotional toll of a contested case
How It Differs from Collaborative Divorce
While Collaborative Divorce requires each spouse to hire a specially trained lawyer who signs a formal “participation agreement” — meaning those lawyers must withdraw if either party ever files in court — Cooperative Divorce offers greater flexibility.
Each spouse has their own attorney for advice, negotiation, and document drafting.
All parties agree to share information voluntarily and negotiate in good faith.
No one signs a disqualification clause. Importantly, your lawyer can continue to represent you if limited court filings are needed — and this option helps maintain momentum by using the court’s framework to keep the process moving, rather than letting it stall indefinitely.
You keep control of both process and timeline — without the risk of starting over if settlement talks stall.
Staying Out of Court — While Keeping the Process Moving
In traditional out-of-court negotiations, one unresponsive attorney or party can delay progress for months. Cooperative Divorce avoids that paralysis.
If necessary, we can commence a limited court proceeding solely to take advantage of the court’s scheduling and disclosure timelines — not to litigate, but to keep the process accountable and on track. This allows us to use the court’s framework to avoid stalemates without ever entering a courtroom.
This balance of private negotiation plus procedural structure keeps your case moving efficiently toward resolution.
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